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What Are You Looking For?

July 6, 2017
Cheyenne Mountain

On a recent Sunday morning the minister asked the question, “What are you looking for?” So often my response is “something”…“anything”…“whatever will take away the emptiness, loneliness, pain and discouragement”…“whatever will fill the void and restore my joy.” How often I have felt what the Psalmist wrote: Oh, God, you are my God, I seek you, my soul thirsts for you; my flesh faints for …

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Memoirs Help Normalize Grief

May 5, 2016
On My Own

Grief experts agree that widows get too much advice—too many people telling them how to grieve, how long to grieve, when to make decisions, when to move on. What works for one person may not work for another. There is no single right or wrong way to mourn the loss of a spouse. Nevertheless, most books on grief are how-to books written in second-person. Self-help …

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Sincere…Blameless…Excellent

October 25, 2015

Key 2: Be sincere and blameless, approving all that is excellent. Love, knowledge and discernment—the first key to reclaiming joy—are not an end in themselves. They are attributes that we need in order to make the best, wisest choices. As a new widow, operating in a fog, overwhelmed by all there was to do, I had to discern what required my best. How did I …

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