wisdom

Porchtime at the Parsonage

June 29, 2017
parsonage porch

When I visualize my mother, the first image that always comes to mind is of her with her worn Bible across her knees, index cards and pencil at hand, preparing her Sunday School lesson. Her old King James Version was falling apart, the spine of its cheap leatherette cover peeling off, pages spilling out. But she treasured it because it had belonged to her beloved …

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Resolved: To Nurture Relationships

January 26, 2017
Ralph Storm on friendship

When the idea of a memoir on grief was an unformed idea, long before I began to blog, when bffs surprised me with a birthday party and I celebrated a reunion with friend-like-a-brother Ralph Storm, I reflected on the events and my reaction to them: If I have any wisdom from 73 years of living, five years a widow, it is this: NURTURE RELATIONSHIPS. NURTURE …

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12 Keys to Reclaiming Joy

October 6, 2016
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Weekly Meditations to Prepare Your Heart for the Holidays paraphrased from the Apostle Paul’s letter to the church at Philippi With wisdom and discernment, grow in love for others. 1:9 “Love…Knowledge…Discernment” Be sincere and blameless, approving all that is excellent. 1:10 “Sincere…Blameless…Excellent” Seek unity and a shared purpose. 2:2 “Family Unity Matters” Look out for others’ best interests, not only your own. 2:4 “De Tocqueville’s Advice for Widows” Do all things without grumbling …

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Complaining Won’t Change Things

November 15, 2015
Philippians 2:14

Key 5: Do all things without grumbling or complaining. When I read the Apostle Paul’s admonition, memories of my great-aunt flash before me. She was the original grumbler and complainer, choosing to remain a spinster rather than marry a man who wore the uniform of a New Orleans streetcar conductor. On every trip back to New Orleans during my childhood, we made an obligatory visit. …

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Sincere…Blameless…Excellent

October 25, 2015

Key 2: Be sincere and blameless, approving all that is excellent. Love, knowledge and discernment—the first key to reclaiming joy—are not an end in themselves. They are attributes that we need in order to make the best, wisest choices. As a new widow, operating in a fog, overwhelmed by all there was to do, I had to discern what required my best. How did I …

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Love…Knowledge…Discernment

October 18, 2015

Nothing prepared me for widowhood. That first month I was completely overwhelmed. I misplaced everything I set down, including Lev’s wallet with all his identity inside. I had amnesia. I still cannot remember much that was said and done, for I lived in a fog. There were days when I crawled back in bed and pulled the covers over my head. I had panic attacks. …

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Bouncing Back From Adversity

August 20, 2015

As I read about grief recovery, I continually see references to resilience: The ability to bounce back from adversity, loss, trauma. Resilience–or lack thereof–plays a huge role in happiness and depression. As Dominque Browning wrote in a New York Times article, “I’m Too Old for This”: “The key to life is resilience, and I’m old enough to make such a bald statement. We will always be knocked …

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Remembering Elisabeth Elliot

June 18, 2015

Elisabeth Elliot has died, almost 60 years after her husband Jim and four other missionaries died at the hand of the Auca Indians they had come to serve in eastern Ecuador. Her first book, about his death, was transformational for me and for countless other young women who read of her courage and faith. She only grew in faith and wisdom over the decades. What an incredible …

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