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My list of New Year’s Resolutions isn’t written on paper yet—in fact, I seldom make Resolutions—but they are clear in my mind. This year I am driven by the knowledge that I will have knee surgery in 11 days.

What will I do during those weeks of recovery? I have pondered that question since my torn meniscus was discovered last August. Erasing my calendar for January and February has proven a blessing in disguise. Those blank days are days to fill with everything I never have time for, more consecutive days spent in Corpus Christi since I bought the condo in Dallas 10 months after Lev’s death.


  • Time to get off the merry-go-round, slow down a little, deal with all the stacks of paper that I’ve ignored for too long.
  • Time to get papers shredded.
  • Time to part with the handful of items I couldn’t bare to throw away in 2009.
  • Time to catch up on household repairs.
  • Time to spend with old friends I see too seldom.
  • Time to get back on my daily writing schedule, to finish revisions to RECLAIMING JOY: A PRIMER FOR WIDOWS.
  • Time to get serious about finding an agent, building a platform, engaging more seriously in social media.

What a precious commodity. We can’t make time. Instead, we must find time for the things that are important to us. During Advent I took Stephen Covey’s advice to schedule my priorities, instead of prioritizing my schedule. Modifying my thinking ever so slightly has made a difference. In December I got almost everything done that really mattered to me. I want to keep that up.

New Year’s Resolutions are good. I have a target to aim at. Two recent essays provide excellent advice on why and how.

Psychology Today: 8 Reasons We Really Do Need to Make Resolutions

Michael Hyatt: How Now to Make New Year’s Resolutions

What are your New Year’s Resolutions?