Eulogy Virtues Extraordinaire

September 1, 2016
Autism Speaks

All this from the daughter of a Bronx cop who believed in love, loyalty and the absolute responsibility of those to whom much is given, much is expected. I first heard of Autism Speaks when I explored the historic downtown district of Nantucket four summers ago. Almost every shop window had some sort of display, and many were providing a percentage of their profits that …

Continue reading

Mothers and Daughters

August 4, 2016
Mirror, mirror on the wall

After my husband died, I worried about my future. I had been robbed of the most significant person in my life. And every holiday, every major life event where Lev was absent was a new robbery, new bereavement. The losses kept coming, and our family was not prepared. Nobody warned us that death was only the first loss. When I did not fall apart immediately …

Continue reading

Nantucket, My Happy Place

June 16, 2016
Mom's happy place

Sanctuary: A sacred place, a safe haven. Nantucket. In my new role as widow, I first found joy that lasted more than a moment when I visited Nantucket in 2013. I discovered a serene, tranquil beauty here that caused my spirit to soar and led me to re-evaluate and ultimately re-purpose my life. I came back to this remote island a year later to see …

Continue reading

Bloom Where You Are Planted

December 20, 2015
Philippians 4:11

Key 10: Be content, whatever your circumstances. A young friend dropped by to invite me to participate in a major fundraiser for the local hospital. When I thanked her for her involvement in the community, she said, “I had some difficulty when we first moved here, but someone advised me to bloom where I am planted.” As a college student I dreamed of going to …

Continue reading

Finding Community in New Places

September 24, 2015

Colonial Williamsburg was a familiar name, because my cousin married a girl from the area, and his parents moved here from New Orleans after they retired. My parents visited on several occasions, and I heard all their glowing reports. We planned at least two trips but never made it. Then, in 1997, we decided to celebrate our 35th wedding anniversary here. It was Christmastime, when …

Continue reading

My Soul Has Found a Resting Place…

August 9, 2015

  Last Sunday I returned to First Congregational Church, a place where my soul feels at home. Perhaps I am simply getting old and nostalgic for the past, reveling in a Norman Rockwell-like Sunday morning scene. I admit that the whole experience of walking up the hill to the church, joining others on the sidewalk along the way, entering this historic building and sitting by …

Continue reading

Living Life in Gratitude Mode

August 6, 2015

If I have learned anything as a widow, it is the importance of living life in gratitude mode—being thankful for all that was and is and is to come. Generosity flows from a grateful heart. My mother-in-law and my husband were the two most generous people I have ever known. They truly understood the joy of giving. Nantucket Philanthropy One of the things I first …

Continue reading

Exploring Private Gardens: Serendipity!

June 26, 2015
Bells5.Calm street sideBells5Calm ocean viewEaston Street, by the light houseEaston Street climbing rosesEaston Street peek at the AtlanticHill House entryHill House motor courtHill House ocean-view sideHill House outdoor living spaceHill House--on cliff overlooking AtlanticHill House English gardensHussey Street historic houseHussey Street sunken gardenHussey Street sunken gardenHussey Street sunken side garden

Lev and Cheri interrupted my writing this morning to insist that I go with them on a walk up Cliff Road to see some spectacular private gardens that were open. My walks usually lead to the historic district, Main Street and the wharf, while they usually head past magnificent ocean-front houses to the beaches. Today they stumbled upon the first of two Nantucket Open Days, …

Continue reading

In Praise of Friendship

June 6, 2015
Henry Holcomb at the Delaware CanalClematis growing at general storeHistoric Riegelsville Inn

Since I lost Lev, I find that I value my friends more than ever; and those with whom I share a history have special value. Email–but Facebook even more–has created an easy way to keep up with old friends, where once our single communication might have been the annual Christmas card. Between the old Christmas lists, my email list and my Facebook friends, I don’t travel …

Continue reading

Staying Connected in Good Times and Bad

June 4, 2015

During the unfolding tragedy in Wimberley, everyone I know has kept her smart phone nearby, constantly checking Facebook and emails for the latest word on our friends. We are all engulfed in grief. Instant communication and access to information are so taken for granted today that it is hard to believe that the iPhone only made its debut in June 2007. My daughter and her husband bought the new …

Continue reading