generosity

My Mother-in-Law, My Role Model

December 8, 2015
Helen

Helen, my mother-in-law, is my role model for giving, just as she is my role model for widowhood. Twice widowed, she learned from her first experience. I consciously emulated her when Lev died, and I often cite her as an example of how to “do” widowhood well. Today is her birthday. Everyone in the family would agree that Lev and his mother were the most generous …

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Reminders of Jean: Pumpkin Bread & Forgotten Cookies

November 24, 2015
Jean Storm

Jean Storm was one of the saints of First Baptist Church, Corpus Christi; wife of Lev’s long-time partner and friend-like-a-brother Ralph Storm; mother of Susan and Kathy; grandmother to Morgan, Sarah, Julia, David and Mary. And my friend. I counted myself blessed to be on the receiving end of the Storms’ generosity. Chief among Jean’s many gifts were her hospitality and her ministry to the …

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Family Unity Matters

November 1, 2015

Key 3: Seek unity and a shared purpose. Through the years I have heard the warning, “Be careful how you treat your children because they will pick your nursing home.” After Lev died, I needed my children desperately: Their blessings, their approval, and—most of all—their presence. I needed to feel needed. That surprised them. My daughter said later, “I never thought of you as a …

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Travel Tip #13. Tip Generously

August 11, 2015

Travel Tip #13. Carry lots of one- and five-dollar bills for tips. As a rule, tip 20 percent in the U.S. How much to tip? And whom to tip? Almost every new widow I know struggles with that question…another one of the tasks our husbands used to perform. Among those in the hospitality industry, older women do not enjoy a particularly good reputation for generosity. …

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Living Life in Gratitude Mode

August 6, 2015

If I have learned anything as a widow, it is the importance of living life in gratitude mode—being thankful for all that was and is and is to come. Generosity flows from a grateful heart. My mother-in-law and my husband were the two most generous people I have ever known. They truly understood the joy of giving. Nantucket Philanthropy One of the things I first …

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