grief recovery

Memoirs Help Normalize Grief

May 5, 2016
On My Own

Grief experts agree that widows get too much advice—too many people telling them how to grieve, how long to grieve, when to make decisions, when to move on. What works for one person may not work for another. There is no single right or wrong way to mourn the loss of a spouse. Nevertheless, most books on grief are how-to books written in second-person. Self-help …

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Finances: A Widow’s Nightmare

April 14, 2016

Seven years ago today—one week after Lev’s death, my first day alone in my empty house—I was walking across the library when I received an unexpected call from his financial advisors—three people sitting around a speaker phone in another city. I was given no forewarning, no opportunity to have my attorney on the line. The team leader informed me that the bank (this was one …

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Mastering the Storms of Grief

May 23, 2015

I rode out a typhoon off the coast of New Zealand in 2014. When we sailed out of Auckland on January 9 with calm sea and sunny sky, we had no hint of what awaited our small cruise ship at the south end of that island nation. Six days later, we discovered why sailors call this area around 40th and 50th Latitude South the Roaring …

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