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Ready to Party?

November 16, 2017
Dinner for 3

Tennyson may be right that “In the Spring a young man’s [and woman’s] fancy lightly turns to thoughts of love”[1]; but in my stage of life, fall too often turns my mind to thoughts of loss. The shortened days depress me. While I thought nothing of going out after dark with Lev, nine autumns later I am still uncomfortably surprised by the darkness when I …

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What to Do About Valentine Day?

February 9, 2017
wedding & funeral

Valentine Day—while not the sinkhole that Thanksgiving and Christmas, birthday and anniversary are—is still a day for widows to approach with caution and plan in advance. Or a day to stay home, order in a pizza and binge-watch old movies on Netflix. As Laura Amendola blogged in “Finding Your Path in the Month of Love”: “Sometimes seeing red hearts and cupids in the store windows …

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Seeking Peace in Troubled Times

November 24, 2016
Philippians 4:8

As we gather with family and friends this Thanksgiving, the words of the Apostle Paul seem more relevant than ever. I first reflected on his advice December 13, 2015, and I have returned to it over and over during the ugly election campaign. Now I am reminding myself to seek peace first of all with those I love most. That begins with me. After I …

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6 Good Reasons to Entertain at Home Alone

September 20, 2015

Women who find themselves suddenly single again—whether widowed or divorced–after years as half a couple are often at a loss on how to entertain. I threw my first big party—a properly decorous event—seven months after Lev died, and I have grown increasingly comfortable entertaining at home alone in the years since then. Here are six reasons to entertain: 1. Reciprocate People are incredibly kind to …

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In the Mood for a Party

July 12, 2015

In one of my earliest attempts to build relationships with other single women after Lev died (and to deal with the sinkhole called Valentine Day), I invited several acquaintances—divorced and widowed—over for an “un-Valentine party,” with a light meal spread out on the big coffee table in my library. We watched one of those comedies about “women of a certain age”—with Meryl Streep, I think, …

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CELEBRATION!

May 24, 2015

We have celebrated together for more than four decades–our own major life events, then our children’s, now our grandchildren’s. Like today. Old friends honoring a beautiful young granddaughter in the company of her friends and family. Pink flamingos stood in tropical flower gardens on the tables. Caribbean music played in the background. Hurricane glasses held pink lemonade, and even the straws were adorned with flamingos. The buffet offered …

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