Wishing You a Blessed Thanksgiving

November 26, 2015
Giving thanks-a montage

Almost immediately after Lev’s death, I began to worry about the Holidays, more than seven months away. Having always loved everything about Christmas—the tree, carols, presents, cards, cookies, candies and lavish meals—I did not want to lose that too. How could I move from loss and grief to the joy of Christmas? In early fall, I set goals for myself, borrowing literally from the word …

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Westward, Ho!

August 23, 2015

Three Coasts in 13 Days From Nantucket to Corpus Christi to Carmel in less than two weeks is a bit of a push, but how could I turn down the gracious invitation of dear friends with a house in Carmel? A married couple can give no better gift to widowed friends than to continue to include them. It doesn’t always happen. For some women, it …

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Be Anxious for Nothing

July 19, 2015

“… but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Advice given the church at Philippi almost 2,000 years ago resonated with me after Lev died. I was anxious, worried and stressed about everything. But I read and re-read …

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A Memoir of Grief and Gratitude

June 29, 2015

The Light of the World, a memoir on love and death and grief by the prize-winning poet and Yale professor Elizabeth Alexander, was published April 21 and quickly made best-seller lists. I have been reading memoirs by widows lately, and I wanted to compare Alexander to two literary giants a generation older than she, my contemporaries Joan Didion (The Year of Magical Thinking) and Joyce Carol Oates (A Widow’s Story). …

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